A break up can be painful. It fills you with negative emotions and makes you unsettled from inside.  The end of a relationship comes with a feeling of emptiness. This makes you feel vulnerable. However, if you keep on lamenting on your past, you won’t be able to move forward. That is why you need to take charge of your own emotions and move forward. There are certain ways to deal with a messy breakup. Want to know how? If yes, the read on:

1. Do not Blame yourself

“There is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so.” -William Shakespeare

True! Our experiences of good and bad events depend on how we perceive them. After a break up, you might feel “not goods enough”. Your self-esteem hits rock bottom and you feel angry and lonely. Change the way you think. Do not blame yourself for everything. This will help you gain confidence and boost your morale.

2. Give yourself time to grieve

It is okay to feel sorry and dejected for a few days. Do not allow this feeling to be permanent. Allow yourself only a few days to grieve. Cry out loud and release your emotions. However, once that period is over, slowly let go of the past. Plan useful activities. Go out with friends and socialise. Keep your mind indulged and act as if you are fine. Once you get used to it, you will be able to move on.

3. Try to understand the reason

Do not criticise yourself or your ex for the breakup. Rather, try to understand what went wrong. Be honest with yourself and find out what were the things that were not right. Try to understand your ex-partner’s point of view. This will broaden your perspective.

4. Ask for Help

If you find it difficult to handle your emotions, seek professional help. Go to a counsellor. Seeking support can give you additional strength in dealing with your break-up. This will also help you get over your negative emotions.

5. Focus on the people around you

Be kind and gentle to people and loved ones around you. Be thoughtful and compassionate. This will help you feel better from inside and help deal with your breakup.

We hope that these tips will help you deal with your emotions effectively and move forward in your life.